One of my favorite quotes by feminist and author Chimamanda Ngozi Adiche :
We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, you can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise, you would threaten the man. Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors not for jobs or accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are.
There is a lot to be said about how young girls have been conditioned, and there is much work to be done to make sure we are awakened in order to ensure we serve the young women that come after us. When women like Hillary Rodham Clinton, and others like her dare to have ambition and become a man’s competition, the hostility shown to her makes you cringe. We’ve come a long way from the brick wall, but we need to make certain that what we teach girls as well as boys will ensure that they thrive irregardless of gender.