I’ll Just Leave This Right Here……
One of my favorite quotes by feminist and author Chimamanda Ngozi Adiche :
We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, you can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise, you would threaten the man. Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors not for jobs or accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are.
There is a lot to be said about how young girls have been conditioned, and there is much work to be done to make sure we are awakened in order to ensure we serve the young women that come after us. When women like Hillary Rodham Clinton, and others like her dare to have ambition and become a man’s competition, the hostility shown to her makes you cringe. We’ve come a long way from the brick wall, but we need to make certain that what we teach girls as well as boys will ensure that they thrive irregardless of gender.
Reality TV, where do I start. From The Bachelor, to Love and Hip Hop, Basketball Wives and the Real Housewives, we cant escape the shallow existence that is reality TV. We no longer have heroes, or idols. Television is saturated with insecure, promiscuous men and women fighting, crying, cheating on one another, anything for attention and money. The lifestyles being portrayed are false, they spend a large amount of time pretending to have perfect lives….filled with drama, because others are extremely jealous of how perfect their life is. Huh?
Shows like The Real World were the beginning of reality TV. Suddenly people with ordinary lives were no longer interesting, it became more about idolizing the rich and famous, it girls, and the train wreck that ensued. The networks saw huge profits with the millions of people becoming addicted to the cheap thrills of watching other people do scandalous things just for ratings.
What amazes me is that reality TV viewers are getting younger and younger. My eight year old son couldn’t stop saying “ you are not the father!” after accidentally seeing part of a segment of the Maury Show. We must keep in mind that we as parents have a responsibility to be more vigilant in using parental controls, some of these shows “send the wrong messages to young people trying to understand their place in the world” and we should be concerned enough to make sure they get a healthy dose of programming that doesn’t spotlight a world rife with sexual situations, focused obsessively on physical attractiveness and dominated by competition, scheming, humiliation and voyeurism — clearly not the core values most adults would like to impart to the next generation.”
Images Taken From:
Images taken from:
FADER magazine “Becoming Rihanna In a world of phonies, Rihanna is the realest. How she manages this, we may never know”. http://www.thefader.com/2015/09/28/rihanna-r8-fader-cover-story